Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Wow

Hey, umm Mr. President? The United States didn't invent the car... But nice job on the speech last night. Haha. Wow!




(McCain.... Sigh)

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Input Needed!

As PBF and I are preparing to move, I realized something yesterday... "We have moved" cards!! Does anyone have any good ideas of stationary sources? Besides Caspari, natch!

Thanks for the tips!!

Monday, February 23, 2009

Romance Montage 2008 from Oscars

I love romantic movies...

The Oscars this year was good, I thought, in light of the recession... I hope I can do a fashion post soon...

Please enjoy this clip for now! : )

Friday, February 20, 2009

Inspired Post

Instead of posting this on Fabulously Broke's comment page, I decided just to dedicate a post of my own about my own story...

This is the FB story:

"I really should be the last person laughing at other people's misfortunes, but this woman missing her flight is.. freaking HILARIOUS."

You have got to check out her page to see the clip.

Agreed. But I can totes relate!!!

I can. Seriously. Last year I spent a week in Sarasota visiting my Aunt and Uncle at their Winter home down there. It was literally my first non-long-weekend vacation in 4+ years. Not even kidding!!! My flight had been cancelled two times already because of severe thunder storms, and then when I got to finally leave Sarasota (delayed) my flight was actually early but not early enough to catch my connecting flight in Charlotte to Richmond!

It was horrible. I had work the next day, and I was 45 minutes early and yet there was my plane, I was "2 minutes too late" and even though I could see people still walking onto the plane, they wouldn't let me on. I almost had to spend the night in the airport because one of my bags was checked and it HAD to go to Richmond. Even though I was only 4 hours from my house, I could've gone to any of the others flights that afternoon to Roanoke, Newport News, Norfolk, Charlottesville, or Dulles - because they are all less than 2 hours from my house and PBF would've driven just to bring me home.

I spent a week on a relaxing vacay and then I got all stressed out close to home. When I FINALLY was put on the 2nd to last flight of the night, to Richmond (stupid post 9/11 paranoia!! grr!), we were told by the pilot that because of powerful ground winds and low fuel we would have to re-route to Dulles to refuel. AUGH! Then we sat in Dulles for a good 1.5 hours, not allowed to get off of the plane or walk around the plane although several of us were hyperventalating, and then we barely made it flying into Richmond.

In all seriousness, we clapped for the pilot, because in our traumatic state, we were convinced the plane was so light that we were going to flip over and die, or something dramatic of that nature.

Note: PBF and I had been dating a month at that point and he decided that he was NEVER going to have me travel any DISTANCE of that measure without him EVER AGAIN. : )

Thursday, February 19, 2009

How Rude & Some Humor

Jeez! I just hassled some USPS guys and they told me a package I sent Nantucket Dreams in the BEGINNING OF FEBRUARY... has been sitting in a distribution center in BALTIMORE. UGH! How rude! I sent something to arrive before Valentine's Day and it gets lost up there in the mail! I could've driven it to her and given it in person in the same time frame! Goodness. So annoying. Apparently it should be there, they said, in an estimation of a week... RIGHT. I just hope it arrives in one piece (as it is long overdue in general) : ( )

To make myself feel better, I checked on YouTube for some new Gossip Girl humor and found these hysterical numbers... check them out!:
Bass-Talk:

Notes: I love Chuck Bass. Not going to lie. I mean, I fear catching a disease from him, but he is the only one on the show with genuine metrosexual GQ-Esquire style!! And he is funny. I am so with Blair in her taste for me... oh jeez. But I love that last part with the sitcom humor overlapping the sitcom style of this preview!!


Ment-Whore:

Notes: Is Dan doing Miss Carr at Prom? Or is it a charity ball backstage? Anyone else notice that? EWWW. I mean, is Dan 18 yet? Or is it illegal in that aspect too? *gets sick*


Blairanoia:

Notes: Not anything unusual. Nelly Yuki getting the verbal abuse because she turned Blair in to Headmistress and Miss Carr. I really am wondering if anyone knows yet about Carr and Dan - that showdown needs to happen!! Also, LOVE Dorota going off on Chuck (and Serena? or is she just playing witness?) in Polish!! Har har!

Monday, February 16, 2009

Twitter

Just signed up for Twitter - find me on here and Follow Me and I will Follow You too!

http://twitter.com/worthystyle


xoxoxo

W

Fashion Week for Fall 2009

I am loving some collections this year and hating others...

Here are some of my favorites - all pictures should be credited to Marcio Madeira for Style.com, because I love their site as they have the best layout/slideshows to go through the fashions rather quickly.


This gorgeous green number is from Donna Karen/DKNY, and I would like to point out a number of details -
*green color -jewel tones are sticking around
*tights are black and seem to be opaque so they are sticking around for another winter
*the shoes, while I dislike the style, animal print is here again for Fall
*big shiny bag = always going to be in style
*dark, gothic-colored but short-in-length, nails - still an it thing!


This soft blue is by Reem Acra, and I am just infatuated with the color and texture. I love everything about this for an evening gala look.
Repeats I am seeing:
*big necklaces. while not big shiny stones, big ...more earthy elemental stones in matte shades are included
*grecian-style length and necklines
*soft hairstyles


Hervé Léger by Max Azria had another season's worth of interesting styles... but nothing that really had me say wow. I could only find one look that made me happy, while the rest just had me feeling as though we had left a funeral. This one dress, which is classic in Herve Leger standards only made me happy because of it's color and it's texture. I liked the shade used on the dress, and it made me see Fall with the delicate usage of velvet. Cheers, but I hope for better nextime... especially when it comes to the shoes. What the heck was the house thinking with those ridiculous Star Trek esque numbers?!



Diane von Furstenberg
had a fun collection. Of course, it is DVF so how could the collection not be fun? However, she shunned other collections and went with a non-somber theme, she wasn't going to let a recession make her clothes look bad. So, the Nomad collection was born! My favorite from her collection was a simple look. Bare legs, long cardigan sweater, and an American-Indian inspired dress. And the hat. Cannot ignore the hats. Thank goodness I have one of my own... although mine isn't as trapper-esque as this one was...

Lastly, we have Lacoste. A prep classic and a favorite of mine when it comes to their Ready-to-Wear items. This season, that title, Ready to Wear, really shone on the runway yesterday. Obviously going for that haute look, items can clearly be plucked from a model and put on an average jane. Whether it's a jacket, sweater, short, cropped pant, pantsuit, skirt, or cardigan... it was evident the collection was going for transition-friendly, which also = buyer-friendly in this economy. I chose two looks...


The first one is a mid-late 1970s look. Very Annie Hall-esque. The color family here is really flattering on the model, and the clothes fit great. This is so prep-friendly I cannot wait to check it out. The tie-front shirt, the suit jacket, the cardigan, skinny belt, and cropped pants all also can say late 1980s, early 1990s. This collection will definitely encourage women to raid their Mom's closets if not their own (age-depending). It would be a perfect late summer to Fall transition outfit.

This second look is more evening or late Fall to me. The shades just say "chance of snow" or "post-work cocktails on me". Again, channelling a classic prep style was obviously inspiration here. I will again say Annie Hall. Mostly because it is menswear with a female cut in mind. I am not positive but those shoes seem suede, and I really could see a true prep stick her Wallabees into an outfit like this and it looking fantastic. Another silk blouse with tie here, and a heavier winter-weight, late Fall jacket was used on top. A classic staple of a navy peacoat would likely work fantastic here as well. The pants seem to be classic professional wool pants... but I bet if you wanted a more relaxed prep-weekend look you could do a corduroy with no problem. A softer shade of deep lavendar was used in the belt, and it almost seems like it is of the texture of the blouse itself, a heavy silk. I could see a scarf used to add in more colors as well, maybe gold jewelry here for a glint of class - although that may make it too Ralph Lauren for some of you, that is the look I would do...

Outer Banks weekend Getaway!

Hey y'all, well, Michael and I are back, sadly enough, from the Banks. We agreed that we didn't want to leave... As background, my grandparents had a house down here from about 1989-2003, so I essentially grew up on the Banks part-time from when I was a baby to the summer I started college, so it is a huge part of my life. And I was ecstatic when Michael told me he got us a room at The Sanderling resort for our long weekend getaway!

Sunset on the Soundside (for those not in the know, Soundside means the side of the Outer Banks's barrier islands, which looks back towards the Mainland of Currituck County, NC, over the Currituck Sound) from the North Inn, where we stayed (quieter), from the 2nd floor balcony:


The North Inn is essentially an unconnected wing off of the Main Inn of the hotel, built around the same time the Main Inn was built, in 1988-1989. The North Inn has two floors and two wings, which meet in the middle on this community area, which includes a game table (with daily papers), fireplace, and often tea or coffee during certain points in the day. This is a picture of the community area...


We ate dinner at Ocean Boulevard and Blue Point. We ate at OB on the 13th, and had seats at the Chef's table. I chose the pre-Valentine's Day special tasting menu - it was amazing.

My first course was an amuse bouche - with a lovely wine pairing, and it had two items on it, a goat cheese and strawberry dallop of yumminess with creme fraiche on a yummy shortbread cookie... and a smoked salmon cheesecake square.

My salad course had baby greens, two toasted pieces of baguette, two chunks of baked brie cheese, a raspberry-balsamic vinaigrette, candied grapes, CHOCOLATE SHAVINGS (Muffy, I know at least will love that!!), and toasted almond slices. It was amazing. Here is a picture:


My entree was the sea scallops, which included a swirl of pesto around the plate, a large grilled portabello mushroom, a tomato-herb salsa (not spicy though, and they called it puree although it was chunky), a large folded piece of roasted garlic and ricotta jumbo ravioli, a dozen small fried calamari, and the sea scallops:


My desert was the dark chocolate pot de creme with some heart-shaped peppermint shortbread cookies - yummy!!:


After that, Michael and I went back to our hotel and relaxed in the room with the door propped open so we could listen to the waves break on the beach over the dunes from our room, which was amazing. The scent in the winter of the ocean is so intoxicating... isn't it?

Outer Banks

We just got back from the Outer Banks for our Valentine's Day getaway which was just lovely... Details to follow!!

Xoxo

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Grammy's 2009 (not about Chris Brown or Rihanna!)

This is Radiohead's awesome performance from this year's Grammy's from this weekend... cool right?


Monday, February 9, 2009

House update




The house passed inspection with flying colors! We are well on our way to moving into this house (still set for March 23)! We are totes excited and very happy with how things are working out. ANNNND it looks like our mortgage will be cheaper than we thought! So... very good! We are infinitely happy with the result! We are even getting from the current owners their paperwork from a contractor who gave them estimates on building a garage - Michael and I agreed, a garage would be very nice - especially when we have kids, and then we would make it a full garage and have another bedroom and bath suite (maybe even a kitchenette) above it!). I also hope eventually we can put in a pool and a pool house as we aren't near any country clubs. Plus, it would be a nice accessory with birthday parties and social events, etc. I definitely plan on hostessing a lot of things!! Currently we are looking for a lawyer to help with closing, and I really want us to get a lawyer, not a title agency, just because we NEED to get a lawyer, hello, prenup, title changing when we get married, wills, etc...

He's Just Not That Into You




One of my BFF's - Zazu Pitts, and I saw He's Just Not that Into You this weekend. We went to a less-popular theater and got great seats and I had so much fun seeing a chick flick.

Of course, since I was seeing it with her, and we both are as bad as Whitney Port (of The Hills) when it comes to facial expressions - we had to make many and express shock over some scenes. I never read the book (as I have been unlucky in love but haven't had issues with anyone in a long-long term relationship) - and have always chocked up experiences as just that, experience. I am not a 30-something like the women all in this movie are (well, upper 20s with Gennifer Goodwin, of course).

All in all, I loved the movie. There were parts where it kind-of dragged, and I felt like the "interviews" between "chapters" was a bit cliche, then again this was written by a former member of the original SATC crew. BUT, acting was good, lines were funny, guys were occasionally a-holes, but I enjoyed it nonetheless.

Sunday, February 8, 2009

What have you recieved from your parents?

Stacking Pennies and Fabulously "Broke" both did an entry on this subject (originating from Stacking Pennies), and I found it interesting and thought-provoking.

As Stacking Pennies put it - "Financial independence of those of us in our twenties has been a bit of a hot topic in the past month or so. From minor “handouts”of meals and gifts, to tax exclusion gifts, to nothing at all, the level of help we get from our parents varies widely. I’ve considered myself financially independent for quite some time, but I wanted to take a minute and reflect on what I have received, what I still receive, and what I expect to receive in the future."

In the past I’ve received:
My parents sent me to a private pre-school, and in a small town, it was made up of all of the people I associated with on a regular basis from the Country Club, Girl Scouts, RARO, and ballet/dance classes. After attending public elementary and middle school education, I then attended Chatham Hall after barely surviving an awful 9th grade year at the local public high school. That ran about 25k a year, but I earned scholarship money so I have no idea how much that expense really ran. However, with books, my weekly allowance, trips abroad (Costa Rica), trips within the US (roomies and friends and school trips to SC, NC, Boston, NYC), and mixers (Woodberry Forest, Episcopal High School, Hargrave Military, Virginia Episcopal, Blue Ridge School) - those ran up the monthly charges I sent home. I had vocal lessons but both of my grandmothers contributed for that. Likewise with summer camp, I think a grandmother paid for half so the other 1/2 was paid for by my parents.

College: As I had gone to Chatham, in high school I had no cell phone and no car - so that expense came up with college. Mom added me to her Verizon account and she gave me her old convertible (Sebring, candy apple red!) and my Dad upgraded it by having a CD player installed into it. I went to a private Methodist college (Randolph-Macon in Ashland, VA) and while I had a lot of scholarship money, I didn't get enough to completely cover my tuition. However, I did not understand my Dad when he had me sign papers --- turns out most of the leftover money I had put into loans in my own name. (Didn't get that understanding). I think all in all my parents have only had to spend about $25k in full for my college tuition, as the past 3 years I have paid for myself and with gift money from my Grandfather.

Car and Insurance: My Mom loaned me her car when she wanted a new convertible and that '97 Sebring served me well from 2003-2007. She and Dad then gave me permission to trade it in when my Grandfather gave me money for a "less sad-looking" car in 2007 (i.e. Sebring had a vinyl top that was shot and paint had faded to a sad burghundy, no longer Candy Apple). So that was when my Grandfather and I bought my current car. Even though I haven't lived in Rockbridge County since 2004 - my car's legally still named there - only because my Insurance is under my parent's account as it shares the account of their home insurance, mortgage, etc, so it really is in their favor I keep it there as long as possible - but I think that time is running out now!!!

Free rent during college: I didn't live with my parents in college except for 1 semester before going to Sweet Briar for a semester. When I was at Macon, my rent was included in my scholarship and I was lucky enough to get an, albeit outdated and ghetto, suite, a suite in a coed dorm nonetheless (coed by floor!! scandal for all girls boarding school me!).

Still receiving:
Cell phone plan: My Mom still has my phone, her phone, my Dad's phone, and my brother's phones all on the same Verizon account. I am at the expense of $15 a month, unlimited minutes and texts, etc. But our total monthly charge is rarely over $120, and if you divide that by 4 it's really a good deal.

Gifts: My parents are extremely generous people. If I ever genuinely need anything and Michael and I cannot work something out, I will ask for their assistance. This past semester, with tuition having gone up, I did have to ask for about $100 in textbook money. When I have holidays and birthdays, they always give me the best gifts in the world, some material, and some useful (like groceries --- I love applesauce and expensive jams/jellies and so they will indulge these loves!!), and they really don't spoil me so much as enjoy the thought behind giving as I do.

Meals: As I go home about 1x every 2-3 months, I really don't get asked to pay. When my Dad or Mom has a day off from work, they may meet me, or me and Michael, for lunch somewhere (especially Dad as he has been our Realtor on the house), and I might pay for the gelato dessert or the sodas at the movies, but they don't expect me to do anything else - and almost adamantly refuse to accept any kind of monetary assistance. They have told me when I am done with college I can expect to pay for the occasional dinner, and unless they are visiting Michael and I and we are hosting them, I am definitely going to insist on paying because when you are hosting someone it is so rude, ( I really hate when people do this ), to expect the guest to pay. If they want to buy a lunch, okay, but not a nice dinner out or something like that. So TACKY!!!

Wedding: They paid for some of my older half-sister’s wedding (she married older at 30), which I estimate cost around $5k total and no way did they spend that much on her. I mean, she is older, and she and her husband have a very nice comfortable income with her choosing not to work and his being an engineer. Our tastes are very different, and so as she is my Mother's eldest my Mom spent more than my Dad. My Mom's parents also contributed as she is their oldest grandchild (of 12) and she and my Mom lived with them in the 1970s as she was going through a rough divorce. However, when I get married, it will be in my hometown, at my Dad's alma mater, and at the church I grew up at. Therefore, it will likely not be as expensive as it was for her, trying to coordinate a wedding from Atlanta to the wedding site in Virginia. As a current (forever?) VA native, I will be much more hands on and will not need to hire a wedding planner. The church will be free, as I am a life member, and I will of course donate to the church in honor of the pastor (whose son I was totally enamored with in high school - he was my Senior formal date!), and the musicians who trained me vocally when I started my music career - they may require a fee, but it will be minimal. The reception will be at W&L, I think the most expensive things would be Open Bar - which Michael will likely pay as my parents do not drink alcohol and I don't want them to feel pressured to pay for that, and the music, which I hope will be done by Charlottesville Swing Orchestra, a wonderful big band with talented area musicians I greatly enjoy. Both of those things cannot be more than 10,000 - but I plan on having a larger wedding, as I work, and because Michael and I work together in the same Federal Building, we feel it would be best to invite many of our coworkers - and that by itself is around 50 people if not more in just our building. We also have coworkers from Harrisonburg, Roanoke, and then my Camp Seafarer, Chatham Hall, Rockbridge County, Randolph-Macon, Charlottesville, and Richmond friends, his Army, Long Valley, Marshal service and Jiu-Jitsu friends. And our family! And our family friends (incl. politicians, etc) Yeesh!

Going Forward:
Michael is buying himself and I a house, and naturally the next thing will be engagement. I am trying to pay off most all of my student loan and credit card (from college) debts so we can have that extra $300 month go to our wedding fund. I want my parents to pay for as little as possible. However, because of my parents, and my grandparents, a certain level of popularity will be surrounding this wedding. I would expect no less than 250 attending, unless the economy hasn't recovered in the next 2-3 years. I would also anticipate this wedding wouldn't - obviously you all knowing my tastes - be a wedding that is average in Lexington. The cake will not come from Wal-Mart, the picture in the paper wasn't done at CVS, and then reception won't be in the hall off of the side of my church. It will be formal, and there won't be a DJ playing hip-hop. So, naturally, it won't be cheap. Again, not expecting my parents to pay for most of it if we can help it. But because of my family's ties it may be the last hurrah for a long while in entertaining. I also know they are planning to retire, and so Michael and I are trying our best to prevent any extra expenses from touching them. For example, I really don't want to have to worry about my parents being obligated to pay for anything associated with me for much longer - health insurance doesn't count as I am still in school and still not married yet - but car insurance is like $650 a year I could do on my own or tied with Michael and our own home insurance. I don't plan on ever asking them for health when I finish my Bachelor's, Masters, or start my J.D. I will start insisting on covering dinner out on occasion. I don't want them to expect that they need to pay for major car repairs as they occur, or replace my laptop, or anything like that. I continue to be impressed by the thoughtfulness that surrounds my direct family, as we are generous to each other while also remaining useful (the Coach wallet they gave me is a good example, as I needed a new wallet but it wasn't super-super expensive). I have not been on vacation with my parent's since August 2003, at least on their wallet - the trips we have done have been paid for by my Dad's parents, who spend the money as gifts to us as they enjoy spending time with our direct family. However, last summer they tried to coordinate a beach trip but that didn't work out and they along with my brother had to go alone. Dad and I did go to a Dave Matthews concert a couple of years ago while my Mom traveled over 6 weeks in China with my brother (who lives in China). I hope that at some point Michael and I can do a trip with them - even just to the beach to spend time with them. Good quality thank you time. Especially since my Dad is taking NO commission on helping with our house purchase, not even closing $$, even though the economy sucks - that is $7500 he isn't getting in his pocket. Which is immensely generous.


What about you? Make your own post, or leave a comment!

Friday, February 6, 2009

Colonel William John "Bill" Stockwell



Colonel William John Stockwell, 56, of Lexington, VA, died unexpectedly Wednesday, February 4, 2009.

Colonel Stockwell is survived by his wife, Jill, daughter, Jaclyn, and sons, Robert and Bredt. He is also survived by his mother Margaret and sister, Martha of Asheville, NC, and his brothers Richard of Manalapan, NJ, and Robert of Atlanta, GA.

He was predeceased by his father, Eugene Stockwell.

Colonel Stockwell began work at Virginia Military Institute January 1, 1975, as an instructor in the Physical Education Department and rose to full professor of physical education, remaining with the department until his promotion to Associate Dean in 1994. He served as Acting Dean of the Faculty for the 2000 - 2001 academic year, and he has served as the Deputy Superintendent for Academics and Dean of the Faculty for the current academic year.

A 1970 graduate of Ridgewood High School, NJ, and a 1974 graduate of Springfield College, Colonel Stockwell earned his doctorate in health education from the University of Virginia in 1984. In 1986 he received VMI's Thomas Jefferson Distinguished Teaching Award.

Colonel Stockwell was active in the community and served as coach for various sports for all of his children. He was an avid sports fan and particularly supported the New York Giants, VMI and University of Virginia athletics. He was a season ticket holder for UVA football.

Funeral services will be held on Saturday, February 7, 2009, at Jackson Memorial Hall on the VMI campus at 11 a.m. Reverend Tom Crittenden will be officiating.

The family deeply appreciates the generous outpouring of support from the VMI and Lexington communities.

Gifts in Colonel Stockwell's memory may be sent to the VMI Foundation, P. O. Box 932 Lexington, VA 24450.

Arrangements are being handled by the Harrison Funeral Home & Crematory, Lexington, VA.



VMI News Release
Published: February 5, 2009

A funeral service for Colonel William J. Stockwell has been set for 11 a.m. Saturday (Feb. 7) at Jackson Memorial Hall at Virginia Military Institute.
Colonel Stockwell, Acting Deputy Superintendent and Dean of the Faculty, died Wednesday.
Immediately following the service, a reception will be held at the new Center for Leadership and Ethics behind the Marshall Museum.
Attendees should be aware that parking will be challenging, with a number of events occurring at VMI on Saturday. Signage and attendants will direct visitors to available parking. Parking should be available behind the Marshall Museum and around the Parade Ground. The area in front of the Barracks near Jackson Memorial Hall is set aside for handicapped parking.
Uniformed members of the faculty and staff should wear Class A uniforms; cadets should wear gray blouse.
Gifts in honor of Colonel Stockwell’s memory may be sent to the VMI Foundation, P.O. Box 932, Lexington, Va., 24450.
Persons wishing to send condolences to the Stockwell family can do so my sending an e-mail to condolences@vmi.edu.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Stunned

In mourning for a talented educator and Colonel.

Very sad

M.I.A

So Sad/Thoughts on Breakups

I am still stunned and in shock that one of my favorite blog ladies, Puttin on the G.R.I.T.S. is going through a hard time. Now, I know there are people out there with issues with babies and things like that, but when you are young like we are and just carrying on with a job and getting used to being in a genuine relationship, when one of those things goes away your life's balance goes kaput! I am sending her all the GRITS love I can muster!!!

This is what I told her today:

Oh sug, this breaks my heart! I will tell you, I am SO UNDERSTANDING. I have been through this situation myself - but I am more shocked by your situation than my own. I really don't know what to say, but to just open up your heart and probe it with your thoughts. Maybe you will someday understand this experience if you two do not recover. Then again, maybe you WILL recover. Because you are a beautiful young woman who gave a lot of time and heart to this man who meant everything to you. I can only wish you good and positive thoughts.

I have been through what she is dealing with. It blows my mind, honestly, to think of my life before Michael. While he asked me out a year ago this week to go on our first date, our flirtations had been going on since back around Christmas of 2007. I cannot even begin to think how amazing Michael is, and how much I love him, especially in contrast to A--- before, who I was pretty much settled on, and how I thought I knew what love was in a full way with him. And then things ended ugly there and Michael just took me away into a whole other WORLD of love.

So, I guess in some ways you could say my Ex was my First Love---- but I don't... because even though time was spent, words were exchanged, and love was shared... I don't think about him. In anyway. Good or Bad. At all. I think this entry would be my first in a love while where I am even thinking about him at length other than fleeting thoughts here and there.

There are other guys out there, who I think could fit into "First Love" category - but not A---. I think because it ended so ugly and shockingly and suddenly. We had the long-term, long-distance relationship... but it started off on a seeing each other after work, regular basis kind of thing. It wasn't until I went back to school and moved back to VA that my priorities shifted, and his driving 2 hours to see me 2 weekends a month, him telling me he wanted me to change him, his sad attempt at sweeping me off my feet but coming off more like a stalker, and his even more sad attempt at proposing to me, in utter desperation... are just like something that didn't even really happen. I wouldn't say like a dream... or a nightmare... because even those have memories. And my life has been so full of Michael that the thoughts of A--- are almost nonexistent. He tried, A--- really did, I think, but I just don't believe his heart was in it like he thought. And even though he ASKED me to "change" him, and I tried, the end result was a mess and I should've known better. Instead of just accepting him as he was... I should've known better.

I know that sounds insensitive, but I really mean it in an honest and true way. It really was for the best. A--- literally made me sick when we broke up. I went off the deep end in my attempt to cope with it - I had a fun girls night out the weekend after with people I hadn't seen in ages, drinking at a bar and just singing some Bon Jovi and loving the Baltimore party scene in Federal Hill... and I went to a wedding with a guy friend who will always be That Guy to me - I know we all have one - he is like our Mr. Big in every way (great job, the quintessential gentleman, could take care of us as long as it wasn't something gross, etc) except he could NEVER date us unless he still hadn't found someone by the age of 40 and even then he may hesitate to make it a solid relationship. But I had the ugly too. The not eating enough, the not being a Southern lady and over doing the booze ---- Thanksgiving, 2007 was a disaster on a familial level and then the whole break up happening not long before that REALLY pushed it over the deep end... and those things came at a time when I knew it was over, I was reeling from the sequence of events that occurred, and I flailed about like a fish out of water. I did a lot of uncharacteristic things to really help myself out mentally - the "it isn't really over, IS IT?" denial, the driving 3 hours out of my way just to see him for "one more night", the whole capacity of it [my desperation] really makes me shake my head now. I think my whole thing was, "I am so fantastic, who is stupid enough to screw things up with me? I will give him another opportunity to fix this crap!!" When I should have just moved on.

Which I did.

After a lot of prodding and poking.

I.E.| Everyone in my entire office BUILDING wanted me to go on a date with Michael and move on and take out the trash on my history of A---, and so I finally flirted with him, to let him know I was interested, we talked for a month or so, and he asked me out the first week of February in 2008. And now, we are living together, as we have been since this past summer. My family loves him. My uber-Deep South-traditional Grandmama and Grandpapa like him (enough to take us all out to dinner, which they never did in the 2 years I was with A---! Booyah!!). And now, he is buying me a house to make into a home with him. Plus, we are going to the Banks for Valentine's Day/Federal Holiday weekend, Sanderling here we come!! How can I not love this man? He is everything!! It is such a life-changer. So much has changed in just over a calendar year.

My whole point on my post is this theory: you can think you are done and everything is... "perfect"... but then you can REALLY have things done in a fashion where things are falling into place the way your mind has always thought they should have gone and REALLY be pretty much perfect and that is probably the end result you want.

I had another GF who lost a BF not too long ago either. But in that situation, and she knows this info from me first hand, I always felt like she was just lowering herself to him. He was in this totally different world from her and I felt like she just kept growing and maturing and he was staying, well, in the same place as he had when we were Freshmen in college. Obviously, they could eventually get back together if she believes that is what would ultimately make her happy. But she has so much going on in her life, and so many opportunities falling into her lap, that I am so excited she doesn't have the weight of someone else to worry about when she gets offers to travel the WORLD (literally) for more education in her future line of work! How can a fabulous female say no to that?!?!

So, I guess it depends on who you are with, what kind of life you want, and who you are now, and plan to be, in the future.

They know I love them both and only wish them the best!!!

Monday, February 2, 2009

MAJOR NEWS! Big Update




HELLO LADIES!

I was incredibly excited when Jennifer told me I was to review a beauty product! I recieved from Jennifer this handful of deluxe samples of Kate Somerville Deep Tissue Repair with Peptide K8. Let me just say, I loved the product. It normally comes in a pump dispenser which I think may help with distributing the product evenly. I applied it in the AM and PM after washing my face. I made sure to use a small amount, about a teaspoon, total. I used only the tips of my fingers to apply it all over my face. Within days I noticed that it helps with my wintertime combination skin - keeping the area around my eyes tight and soft, and the T-zone moisturized. I felt my skin texture change from before being kinda flaky to after being VERY springy. A coworker noticed my face had a hydrated glow to it - and thought I had gotten a facial! I know I am young, but that doesn't mean my face never shows stress - and this product helped alleviate that problem! Fabulous up and down!!!

Check it out here: http://www.calistacove.com/prshpr.html

And ladies, here is the best part!!!

Just For Us! Enjoy 15% off, plus get free samples as a gift with a Kate Somerville skin care purchase! For two days only, you can shop for this product and the rest of the Kate Somerville line on Calista Cove: http://www.calistacove.com/prshpr.html Calista Cove is partnering with LaPapillon spa to bring this special shopping opportunity to my readers. Use checkout code “worthy15” to save 15% off all Kate products (not including shipping) through Thursday February 5th. For more details on the rest of the Kate Somerville line and this promo, check out the Life in The Cove blog: http://lifeinthecove.typepad.com